There is an essential new truth emerging in our culture that is challenging us to re-think one of the most basic elements of self identification.  We are now being asked to clarify pronouns rather than simply rely on our own assumptions of gender.  This pulls us all - some, kicking and screaming - into an enlightening new era of self definition that will test our mental, emotional and linguistic flexibility.  The reward, of course, is a much more expansive and accepting world in which there is more beauty abiding and more love possible.