Newsletter for June, 2019

Month: 
Jun 2019
From Our Minister: 

To the Glory of Life: A Prayer for the Ending of a Ministry

 
Spirit of Love,
 
I move into my own time of transition after being with people in theirs. So many feelings are alive in my heart. I feel the sadness that comes with having to let go – relationships that touched my heart are coming to an end… among people who honored me by opening their homes and hearts and lives. I grieved with them in their losses. I rejoiced in their blessings. I waited in the anxious moments, learned their histories and heard their hopes. The way their feelings mirror my own helps me feel the blessing of being with my people. Earnest. Kindred in purpose. Sometimes sensitive. Sometimes bold.
 
I have watched them face losses, feel pain, and respond to problems in creative and caring ways. I have been surprised by their spirit, their resilience, their commitment. And I have rarely seen communities able to have as much fun while doing what needs to be done. Sometimes I think they surprise themselves. There is much within the way they have shown me that reflects a holy purpose. The way people are meant to be together.
 
I have seen their impatient and contemptuous sides too. I’ve seen how they are sometimes timid in approaching conflict or afraid to speak their mind. I’ve seen how they can sometimes be stubborn and prideful.  And I have seen myself in all of these things and I know they are my people. Help me to share my regrets and shed my smallness where I have failed to offer the kindness and generosity of spirit they might have needed from me.
 
Please, Love, be with them. Embolden them. Strengthen them. Make them flexible and resilient to walk into a future that will ask all of us to adapt and change in ways none of us can expect. When they are unsure, let grace abound. Share sensitivity with the bold and bring boldness to the sensitive; and help them find that which they need most in each other. Allow them to fashion coherence and vision from all the individual wisdom. Lift their hearts, which are already large enough, in the moments where courage is needed. And should they ever doubt, remind them that they are beloved in their own right, and always part of the beloved community of all souls.
 
And help us all to see, that although we will walk into the future on separate paths, we are headed to the same place.
 
To the Glory of Life.
 
P. S. One of the things that has become very helpful over the years is feedback.  I would love to hear from you.  Please take a moment to share your experience of the impact my work has had.  You can share what was particularly helpful; or what was not helpful; or what you might have liked that I didn't do.  All feedback is welcome.  Please send to revgregfeedback@uusm.org
 
Thank you!!!"
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
This is the Sunday we say farewell to the Rev. Greg Ward, our Developmental Minister since September 2017. He is heading off to his new marriage and life in the Bay Area. After the service, all are invited to celebrate our time together over lunch in Forbes Hall. Please rsvp here and let us know you are coming and how you can help!
 

 

From Our President: 
Dear friends at UUCCSM,
 
When our settled minister the Rev. Rebecca Benefiel-Bijur departed, we engaged in an effort called “compassionate leave-taking.” The intention was to share our feelings in the community as she prepared to leave and as we prepared for the unknown with a new minister.
 
We are in a similar situation with our minister Rev. Greg, our DRE Kathleen, and intern minister Robin leaving during June.
 
I apologize for not thinking of this earlier, but with the annual meeting, I came to realize that there are many in the congregation who have feelings about these departures, and they deserve to be shared, aired, and processed in loving community.
 
There are a number of opportunities coming up to gather in compassionate dialogue. These events are hosted by the Right Relations Team and will be attended by fellow board members.
 
Here are the opportunities:
 
Sunday, June 16 - noon following the farewell celebration for Kathleen
 
July date TBD
 
August date TBD
 
Here’s a link where you can indicate your interest/availability. You can also check the online newsletter and Thursday Announcements for further details.
 
I am excited to announce the hiring of a new minister and DRE but we need to hold off a bit longer because they need to give notice and inform their congregations of their departures.
 
Stay tuned for more information! In the meantime, thank you for walking this path together.
 
Jacki Weber
President, Unitarian Universalist Community Church of Santa Monica
 
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Please join us to celebrate the contributions Rev. Greg has made to UUSM in helping us become better together over the past two years! We will be enjoying each other's company as well as Lorenzo's famous southern BBQ after service, and we'll be putting together a well-wish jar for Rev. Greg to which you can add a sentiment for him.

If you'd like to participate, we'd like your RSVP so that we don't over-purchase. 

The menu is Southern BBQ (Ribs, Brisket, Pulled Pork) with coleslaw, potato salad, dessert, and drinks. We'll have veggie burgers for vegetarians.

If you would like, you may donate to support the BBQ, volunteer for setup, cleanup, serving, or activities. Just indicate in your RSVP and Janine deZarn will follow up with further instructions.

Proceeds from donations will be split among all departing staff members (Rev Greg, Kathleen, and Robin) to help with moving expenses. Your generosity is appreciated.

https://www.evite.com/event/020CG7RYIS4IZUBCUEPJQFREE5ZS3Y/rsvp

Farewell to Our DRE

On Sunday, June 16 we are saying farewell to Kathleen Hogue. Please help by creating a card or write a short note and give it to Teri Lucas or Robin Stillwater. We’ll have an insert in the order of service with the prompts:  “I loved the time you...”  “I’ve always been impressed the way you...”  “When I think of you I will always appreciate…” 

Fiction Reading Group News:  Farewell

 
The Fiction Reading Group has disbanded.
 
The group will not meet on Monday, June 17, nor on Monday, July 15 and will not meet in the future. The group has been meeting for five years to share wonderful books with great members. We are now interested in reading many types of books independently without any pressure.
 
-- Melinda Ewen and Lucy Hahn
 
RE News: 

UUSM Welcomes Skilled Educator, Organizer, and “General Rabble-Rouser” as New DRE

 
Out of 28 applications, eight preliminary interviews, and three final interviews with highly qualified candidates, we are excited to introduce you to our unanimous choice, Cleo Anderson (she/her/hers). Cleo will join our staff beginning August 18, 2019, as our new Director of Religious Exploration and leader of our Lifetime Religious Exploration program.
 
Cleo spent the 2018-19 year serving as the DRE at Emerson Unitarian Universalist Church in nearby Canoga Park. UUSM DRE Kathleen Hogue has been serving as her mentor for the past year, as Cleo prepares for credentialing as a professional religious educator with the Liberal Religious Educators Association (LREDA). Cleo also accompanied Saunder Choi at the Finding Our Way Home annual retreat for UU Religious Professionals of Color in Miami this past year.
 
She has spent the last few years working with queer youth and young adults offering racial justice programming and cultural sensitivity training and helping marginalized communities discover pride in their own – and others – acceptance and inherent worth and dignity.  
 
The search team was very impressed with both her general intelligence (she is a member of MENSA) as well as her emotional-social intelligence and decision-making process in hypothetical scenarios.  
 
Cleo describes herself as a “glitter loving, queer woman of color, teaching artist, feminist, poet, and general rabble-rouser.” Cleo’s varied teaching adventures include teaching applied theater to middle and high school students, leading workshops for groups ranging in age from 4-year-olds to 70-year-olds, and teaching adaptive swim lessons to kids with special needs.
 
Cleo first attended a UU church as a teenager and started attending services regularly as a young adult at UUSM. When she traveled for college debate competitions, she would often visit the local UU church. Cleo has a profound appreciation for the openness and love of UU-ism. She takes personal inspiration from Gertrude Stein, Angela Davis, Faith Lehane, Audre Lorde, and bell hooks. She is excited to be starting this journey with us in August!
 
-- UUSM President Jacki Weber and The Director of Religious Exploration Search Team
(UUSM LRE
Assistant Teri Lucas, JoAn Peters, Maria Scremin, and UUSM Developmental Minister Rev. Greg Ward )

A New Vision for Our Lifespan Religious Education - UUSM COMMUNITY WORKSHOP JUNE 2

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
What does a successful LRE program look like for UUSM?
 
Sunday, June 2 – 11:30-5:30 pm
Sanctuary and Forbes Hall
Lunch provided. Parking in the structure provided.
 
Lets create a new vision of our Lifespan Religious Exploration Program together! Let our collective voices be heard with heart, spirit and compassion.
 
Join the LRE Program Task Force, the Board of Directors, and our UUA Regional Staff, Sarah Gibb Millspaugh, to collaborate on our new vision of what our LRE Program could be.
 
We will ask the great questions:
 
What does a successful Lifespan Religious Education program look like for UU Santa Monica?
How can we encourage more families and youth to be part of our Community?
How can we do more exciting and fun faith formation out in the community doing cool FIA projects?
 
LRE Task Force:
Beth Brownlie (Board VP, Current RE parent)
Eileen McCormack (Board)
JoAn Peters (LRE-Children & Youth Committee & Current RE Parent)
Teri Lucas (LRE-Adult Programs Committee Representative)
Erik Paesel, Nick Henning, Kelly Hatfield (Current RE parents)

Proposed Changes to Adult RE
WITH DEEP THANKS TO KATHLEEN

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
First, we want to express heartfelt gratitude to Kathleen Hogue for being a vital asset to our work and supporting our growth, as individuals and as a committee, during her tenure at UUSM. We, along with many of you, will miss her wisdom and advice, her sense of humor, and her breadth of experience as a UU religious educator. We wish her well in her future endeavors!
 
Adult RE plans to begin to operate autonomously and streamline our process for creating new programs. This will allow our volunteers more efficient in their new, increased responsibilities. It also has the advantage of giving the new DRE the opportunity to focus their time and energy exclusively on the Children and Youth program, and simplifies the job description for prospective candidates.
 
To that end, we will continue our commitment to bringing you interesting, provocative, and inspiring opportunities for personal and spiritual growth. As always, we welcome your ideas and input!
 
We do need some help in moving forward. We are looking for two new committee members to participate in making Adult Programs as responsive as possible to the needs of our congregation and larger community. You don’t need to have a background in education, just a passion for adult learning and approximately 6 to 8 hours/month to donate to our mission. Just email any one of us below, and we’ll be happy to send you our Charter and our objectives for this year. You are also invited to attend one of our meetings and see what it feels like to be part of UUSM’s Adult Programs for Personal and Spiritual Exploration.
 
We welcome you to support Adult RE in the coming months through participation in current and future programs, proposing new ideas to us, or joining our committee. We look forward to hearing from you!
 
— Adult Programs for Personal & Spiritual Exploration (Adult RE): Mark Berlin, Sarah Robson, Beverly Shoenberger (Chair), James Witker, with Teri Lucas (RE Assistant)

Personal and Spiritual Exploration for Adults, June 2019

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Learning and exploration are about the transformation of the individual, our community, and the larger society. Participation helps us grow in wisdom, compassion, and ethical living. See our upcoming activities, programs, and workshops for adults.

Community Building:

Collage Group with Stan Bemis Saturday, June 8
Do you wish to express yourself creatively in art, and yet may feel inadequate or untrained? Do you yearn to make an artistic statement, yet not sure how? Do you have too many catalogs, magazines, and advertisements, and haven’t a clue what to do with them? We welcome you to create your own collages with Stan Bemis! Stan works to bring joy and peace into people’s lives through creating art. He has taught many who didn’t realize they had creative talent, from all across the world – from California to Palestine/Israel. He welcomes any age, from youths to older adults. The goal of this group is to help foster personal worth and empowerment, entering that holy place within and having sacred fun. The objectives are: 1. to create works of art; and 2. to possibly create cards for events or celebrations. We encourage you to bring your old magazines to work with as well. We meet from 10:00-12:00 pm in the NE Cottage. Contacts: Stan Bemis or Sarah Robson.
 
Exploration of Ideas:
 
AAHS Freethinker Forum Sunday, June 23
AAHS (Atheists, Agnostics, Humanists, and Secularists) is an open group that meets for lively and engaging discussion on topics of politics, science, religion, and philosophy. We also host occasional guest speakers, films, and outings. We are a home base for non-believers and questioners, but everyone is welcome. For many, atheism/agnosticism is a first step; Humanism is the thousand steps that come after. We’ll meet 12:00- 1:00 pm in the Warren Matthews Conference Room Contact: James Witker, aahs@uusm.org.
 
Interest Groups:
 
Discussion and Support for Persons with Disabilities Sunday, June 23
The Disability Support Group will be promoting a dialogue on a selected topic at each of its meetings throughout this church year. There is a different theme for each month. All church members interested in the topic are invited to attend. For May, we will be discussing Self-Empowerment. We meet the fourth Sunday of each month from 12:30–2:00 pm in the NE Cottage. Contact: Michael Young.
 
UU Men’s Group Thursday, June 6, 20
The Men’s Group offers a special opportunity to the men of the congregation and other like-minded men to join our welcoming group in provocative and stimulating discussion and to get to know others with UU perspectives in a more meaningful way. The topic for June 6 is: Decorating our homes with pictures and other objects is something we generally do for reasons other than artistic merit. What do you have on the wall or on shelves in your home, other than family photographs, that has special meaning for you? The topic for June 20 is: Even the best of relationships typically have some never-resolved subjects of conflict, disagreement, or not being in sync. What is one of yours and how do you deal with it? We meet the first and third Thursdays of the month from 7:30-9:00 pm in the NE Cottage. Contact: Richard Mathias.
 
Meditations:
 
An Enjoyable Dive into Who and What We Are Monday, June 3, 17
This ongoing class helps participants master specific meditation skills. We endeavor to answer the questions Who am I? (attitudes and beliefs) and What am I? (essence or true nature). This class will include meditations that explore participants’ spiritual goals. The monthly group meetings also focus on insights gained throughout the month. It is expected that participants will develop and enjoy a regular meditation practice. This group meets on the first and third Mondays from 7:30-9:00 pm in Forbes Classroom 3. Contact: Bill Blake.
 
Open Meditation Monday, June 10, 24
We gather twice a month to sit together quietly for 20 minutes, to walk with gentle awareness for seven minutes, and to explore the integration of meditation with ordinary life through reading and sharing. Anyone who senses they would benefit from 20 minutes of silent, non-guided sitting is welcome to join us. We have found that this time of quiet meditation and shared exploration can be deeply nourishing – a time of simply “being” amidst all the “doing” of our lives. We meet on the second, fourth, (and fifth) Mondays from 7:30-9:00 pm in Forbes Classroom 3. Contacts: Bev Shoenberger or Carol Ring.
 
Personal Development:
 
Conversations and Connections Saturday, June 15
All are invited. It isn’t necessary to have attended previous Conversations and Connections gatherings.
Our guiding intention is to provide structure and opportunities for meaningful connections between individuals in our congregation. We will break into groups of 2, offering an opportunity for one-to-one conversations with 3 different people during our time together. We meet in Forbes Hall from 10:00am-12:00pm. Contact Sue Stoyanoff or Bettye Barclay for more information.
 
Highlights of additional interest groups meeting in June:
 
Knitters and Friends On hiatus during from May 12 until September 22, 2019, when we return to two services. Contact: Linda Van Ligten.
Body-Mind Tune Up for Seniors This group is for seniors, superseniors, and people with physical difficulties. All Fridays 10:00–11:00 am in Forbes Hall. Contact: Bruno Lacombe. Note: Free for church members, $10 suggested donation for nonmembers.
Fiction Reading Book Club We will be reading Sing, Unburied, Sing by Jesmyn Ward (245 pages). This book explores the effects of racism and injustice on a Mississippi family and the ways its members punish themselves for how they’ve chosen to cope. We will meet Monday, June 17, from 7:00- 8:30 pm. Contact Lucy Hahn or Melinda Ewen.
Science Non-Fiction Book Group We will discuss “I Contain Multitudes: The Microbes Within Us and a Grander View of Life” by Ed Yong. Every animal or plant is home to thousands of different bacteria and other microbes. Recent discoveries in this realm prompt us to look at life as the interconnected, interdependent web of all existence of principle seven. All are welcome. We meet Tuesday, June 18, from 7:30–9:00 pm in Forbes. Contact: Rebecca Crawford.
 
 
Music News: 

Divas and Drag Queens: A Choral Concert and Drag Bingo Fundraiser
JUNE 8, 2019 AT 7 PM IN THE SANCTUARY

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
The UUSM Choir presents “Divas and Drag Queens,” a musical fundraiser celebrating Pride and Empowerment. We will be showcasing a variety of pieces ranging from classy to camp; arias from Donizetti to tunes by Whitney Houston, Lady Gaga, Christina Aguilera, and showstoppers from Priscilla Queen of the Desert!
 
The event will be hosted by the lovely Ms. Beverly Luxe and we will be playing bingo through the night. You are welcome to dress up in your campiest, most colorful attire. Tickets are $20 at door or online through old.uusm.org/make-a-donation (choose Program Support > Dining for Dollars > choir concert
 
For more information, contact Saunder Choi.