Newsletter for December, 2015

Month: 
Dec 2015
From Our Minister: 

From Our Sabbatical Minister: 

A rabbi, an Episcopal priest, a United Church of Christ pastor, a Muslim leader, and a UU minister walk into the Federal Courthouse downtown ... 
 
Is that the start of a bad joke? Maybe — but it was also the beginning of my workday on November 12. Months earlier, I signed on as a plaintiff against the Los Angeles County Board of Supervisors, specifically regarding the re-introduction of a Latin cross on the County Seal. Every one of the faith leaders mentioned above thought that showing one religious symbol on the County Seal privileged that religion above all others, and that adding the cross to the Seal conflates the church and state in a way that is offensive and perhaps dangerous. In a county rich in religious pluralism, showcasing one religious symbol is also exclusionary.
 
Sometimes Unitarian Universalists trip over the word “faith” for several reasons. One, it connotes complete trust or confidence in a person or thing. Two, faith can be defined as a belief not based on proof. Three, it can refer to a belief system (and many of us think that a “belief” can too easily be turned into a “creed”).
 
Just because we may not agree with conventional definitions of faith, that doesn’t mean we need to throw this word out altogether. I fell in love with a Unitarian Universalism that takes a concept or idea, and breaks it open, studies it, analyzes it, and constructs it anew so that it is relevant for our people in this time.
 
The Rev. Tom Owen-Towle defines faith as “the energizing spirit that gives birth to our convictions.” This fall, I’ve talked about the tensions between joy and sorrow, between holding on and letting go, between gratitude and despair; and how we can live from a place of joy and gratitude while still honoring and naming our sorrow and despair. We are able to hold onto our optimism and move forward toward a better world because we believe in our ability to do things differently, to change. That energizing spirit — faith — moves us forward toward the world we dream about.
 
On November 12, I was proud to be one of the faithfilled religious leaders in that courtroom. (I was also proud that two congregants, Kim Miller and Mike Reivitis, were there to cheer us on!) On that day I practiced my Unitarian Universalist faith by being part of an interfaith collective, voicing dissent about privileging one religious symbol above all others.
 
I look forward to exploring the theme of Faith with you in December, and may you find multiple ways for that
energizing spirit to move you and your ideas toward a more beautiful, just, and peaceful world.
 
Yours, for a time, 
— Rev. Tera Little
 
 
From Our President: 

A lot is going on in our congregation…

 
The Annual Pledge Drive is underway, beginning with the house parties that the Pledge Team has organized. Those who attended had a very positive response to meeting in a small group and having a meaningful exchange. One of the questions that facilitated a conversation from the heart at Rick and Peggy’s party was “What nourishes you about the community and are there ways you’d like to be nourished that you’re not?” If the purpose of fundraising is to build relationships as Kim Klein has stated in her Fundraising Forever workshop, then we have made positive strides.
 
What made the house parties work well were the calls and personal invitations, thanks to the efforts of the Pledge Team.
 
A series of three Town Halls have been planned and will be executed by the Board. These conversations with the congregation will lead up to the congregational vote on our finances at a business meeting on February 14, 2016. The theme of Town Hall 1 was the congregation’s vision for the future, namely what would YOU like to do with the ~$400,000 unrestricted savings from the Judy Federick and Drew Still bequests? A report based on the minutes of that meeting is included in this newsletter.
 
Town Hall 2 on December 6 will revisit the Committee on Money’s recommendations to be voted on individually at the February 14 meeting. Town Hall 2 will be presented as an overview of the Co$’s recommendations and will allow for questions and comments. Town Hall 3 on January 17, 2016, will present alternatives to the Co$ recommendations.
 
Our Committee on Ministry (CoM) and the Rev. Tera Little have taken brave steps to identify and address the level of conflict within our congregation. To that end, a proposal was presented to the Board to seek outside assistance from the UUA in the form of a Congregational Assessment to be conducted by staff from the Pacific West Region. The Board unanimously endorsed the request. There is a separate article on the next page of this newsletter that provides detail. We haven’t failed; we have so much to be proud of, but we can use a helping hand.
 
Patricia Wright
 

 

News & Announcements: 

Board Sponsored Town Hall Meetings on our Finances

 
December 6 and January 17 in the Sanctuary after the second service.
 
Purpose on December 6, 2015: to review and discuss the recommendations of the Committee on Money
Purpose on January 17, 2016: to review and discuss alternative recommendations
 
There will also be a Congregational Business Meeting on February 14, 2016 to vote on the recommendations of the Committee on Money.

Just Around the Corner...Dining for Dollars!  

 
2015 was a most successful Dining for Dollars year, thanks to you for your generous contributions and wholehearted participation.
 
The D4$ committee is excited to begin planning for our February auction days. Soon we’ll begin to reach out to those of you who hosted an event and those who have never done so. Please start thinking about your event for 2016 and be innovative and imaginative. Some very popular and exciting events this year were hosted by first-timers, so experience is not required!
 
The Dining for Dollars Committee:
Farrokh Allen, Nancy Howell, Barbara Gibbs, Sue Moore, Sheila Cummins, Emily Hero, and Melinda Ewen

Here’s how YOU can help your Pledge Team give its entire $2,000 budget to the Westside Food Bank to feed 8,000 hungry people this winter!

 
The Pledge Team will donate:
 
$5 for every pledge card turned in by December 20
$10 for a 3% increase in your pledge
$15 for a 5% increase
$20 for a 10% or more increase
 
Our 2015/16 pledge drive continues, all pledge letters have been sent out!
 
Please take time now to make a financial commitment to our beloved community at a level that is deeply significant for you.
 
And many thanks to all who attended house parties!
 
With gratitude from your Pledge Team:
Beth Brownlie, Barbara Gibbs, Gretchen Goetz, Kit Shaw, Kim Miller, Jackie Weber, Patricia Wright,
Advisors: Abby Arnold, Rev. Rebecca Benefiel Bijur, and Rev. Tera Little

Second Sunday Supper

 
Join the choir on December 13 for a very special Second Sunday Supper featuring holiday music and a sing-a-long!
 
Warm up your vocal chords and bring your favorite holiday dish as we celebrate the season with food, friends, and timely music from the UU Santa Monica choir — you are encouraged to sing along too! We always have a great time at this seasonal supper, so don’t miss out! And don’t forget to bring some holiday cheer and a hearty appetite! Followed by Second Sunday Spotlight. In order to ease the stress of the hosting group, you are invited to bring your own dinner set-up (plates/flatware/beverage container) and wash the dishes once you arrive back home. Contact Kim Miller for more information.

Save The Date:  Finding Our Path — 2016 Spiritual Retreat

 
Saturday, January 9, 9:30 am to 5 pm
Temescal Canyon Gateway Park
 
Come spend the day in beautiful Temescal Canyon. Wander, wonder, commune, reflect. On this day-long retreat we will welcome the new year by considering anew how we might “find our path” in calling us to wholeness, meaning, and purpose. Sometimes what we call “retreats” wind up being forums, workshops, or meetings. This will be an honest-to-goodness retreat. Our unstructured, self-directed day together will include time and space for reflection, silence, meditation, movement, prayer, journaling, and other practices of the heart. Because of our location, this year we are offering a guided, gentle, silent morning hike in the park, and an afternoon guided meditation.
 
A fee of $25 covers parking, lunch, and the room rental in beautiful Temescal Canyon in Pacific Palisades. If this fee creates a barrier to your participation, please contact Rev. Rebecca (minister@uusm.org). Sign up at the  LifeSpan RE table in Forbes Hall between services, or contact Rhonda (uurhonda@gmail.com) by January 3.
 
Rhonda Peacock

Heart and Soul Service

 
The next Heart and Soul Service is scheduled for Sunday, January 10 at 5 pm in the sanctuary. Save the date and plan to join us for this quiet service with candles and sharing.
 

 

Faith in Action News: 

Faith in Action Protest March

 
Rick Rhoads had been letting me know about the recent protest marches and I was finally able to make the one in October, along with around 20 others. I wasn’t sure what to expect, and was a bit nervous. Signs had already been made, and we each took one. I carried one that said “No Justice No Peace No Racist Police.”
 
The protest was to remind the beach community that there had been two fatal L.A.P.D. shootings and one fatal incident involving a security guard and a homeless person in Venice. Our route took us to the areas where the deaths occurred. At each site, a short speech was made by one of the protesters, explaining what had happened there, and how justice had yet to happen.
 
As I walked and held my sign, and repeated the protest sayings, I felt quite inadequate. I hadn’t followed the stories of these men who were killed. I had heard their names, but I didn’t know their stories.
 
Brendon Glenn was an unarmed homeless man. His friends said he was kind and loved his dog, a black Lab mix. He was a passionate environmentalist who visited recycling plants on the east coast, loved organic farming, and was an active member of Rainbow Family groups. He was also the father of a baby boy, whom he often bragged about adoringly on social media. Brendon was 29 years old.
 
Jason Davis was 41. I couldn’t find out anything personal about him; just that he had a knife and was shot and killed by L.A.P.D. He was believed to be homeless.
 
Jascent-Jamal Lee Warren had a way with words and his nickname was Shakespeare. A friend recalled how he was the first person to offer her help when she arrived at Venice Beach in May, newly homeless from Tennessee. He had shown her how to navigate the often intimidating community, helping her find bus tokens, clothes, and other aid. “He was uplifting,” the friend said. “He was dedicated to peace and offering spiritual support to anyone he met.” Shakespeare was 26.
 
Brendon and Jason were homeless. Shakespeare was killed while going to the aid of homeless people. Two of the men were black and one was white. How many of you knew their stories? Did the people I was passing on the boardwalk know their stories? Did they understand why we were marching? Or were we just another form of Venice street theatre?
 
Many people we passed raised their fists in the air or gave a thumbs up. Some added their voices with ours as they walked by. Some of the transient sidewalk merchants yelled at us. I’m not sure what they were upset about, and I couldn’t understand what they were saying. Could they understand what I was saying?
 
In the end, I wondered if this was the best way to raise awareness — marching on the Venice boardwalk on a Sunday afternoon. Yet, if “we, the people” do nothing, then that is what will happen. Apathy does not bring about awareness, much less change or justice. It’s so easy to turn away and get busy with something else. Brendon Glenn, Jason Davis, and Jascent-Jamal Lee Warren (Shakespeare) can’t champion themselves. Who will speak for them? If I believe that we are all connected, which I do, then their deaths need to matter to me. If any sort of change is to happen, their deaths need to matter to me. I believe in the inherent worth and dignity of every person. I will be at the next march.
 
What would it take for you to join in next time there’s a protest?
 
Rhonda Peacock
 
Splinters from the Board: 

Communication, Compassion, Healing and Money

 
At the start of the November meeting President Patricia Wright read a card we received in response to condolences we sent the Monte Vista UU Church in Montclair, CA. Their church was vandalized — most of the windows were broken — by someone who was not connected with the church. The insurance company has been helpful, and they are returning to normal operations.
 
The Board then heard a special presentation by the Committee on Ministry (COM), represented by Sue Stoyanoff and Margot Page, and also by Ken Brown, our Congregational Life Regional Staff member. They have developed a plan to bring our community to more open communication, compassion, and healing. They proposed a Congregational Assessment by Regional Staff. This will consist of multiple focus groups led by Regional Staff, which will discuss a series of openended questions. For a more detailed discussion of this process, please see the article by the Committee on Ministry in the column to the left in this issue of the newsletter. The Board accepted the COM proposal and authorized the expenditure of $500 to cover the expenses of Regional Staff.
 
The Board then turned its attention to the Report of the Committee on Money, which will be presented and discussed at the second town hall meeting on December 6, 2015 at 12:30 pm. President Patricia Wright had prepared a Power Point presentation of the recommendations, and each slide was reviewed and discussed. Ron Crane, chair of the Committee on Money, was a guest at the meeting, and responded to various points. There will be a congregational business meeting to vote on the Committee’s recommendations.
 
The Board set the date for this meeting as February 14, 2016. There will be a third town hall meeting on January 17, where the Board will present its own recommendations.
 
The Board then discussed the Garden of Eternity. Construction on the Garden is almost complete. Thirteen memorial bricks have been purchased. The Board elected to extend the $500 price for a brick to January 12, 2016. There was a general discussion of other policies relating to the Garden. Some policies are still being formulated, and will be revisited by the Board at a later date.
 
President Wright reminded the Board of the importance of its role in fundraising. She asked the members of the Board to commit to making their pledges before the December meeting.
 
Cynthia Cottam
 
RE News: 

From Our Director of Religious Education:
“Faith” Reflects Trust and Values

 
As we move into December, suddenly the holiday season is upon us. How quickly it has arrived! This year, I find myself thinking more than ever about the meaning of the rituals of this season, and appreciating the ways in which special traditions draw us closer to our loved ones, those who are present with us as well as those who are far away or no longer living.
 
When I was a child, the night my family gathered to decorate our Christmas tree was more special than Christmas itself. I’ve always loved the winter holiday season, and most especially the weeks of Advent leading up to Christmas, weeks of joyful anticipation and making-ready.
 
This year, though, I enter the holiday season in a more somber way than in some years, as a beloved family member nears the end of his life. And I am mindful that the holidays are hard for many people who have lost loved ones, or who are far away from their families. We as a church community are here for one another through the joyful times and through our sorrows. We celebrate and mourn together, and provide a safe place in which we can share our truest selves. We are a family, we members and friends of UU Santa Monica, and this month is a time for remembering that bond.
 
The congregational ministry theme for the month of December is Faith, and I am reminded that there are many faith traditions that have their own special rituals at this time of year. Faith is a word that can be challenging for us as Unitarian Universalists — it’s one of those that has sometimes been defined so narrowly as to leave a wide swath of our members cold. But I’d love to reclaim it.
 
I understand “faith” to mean that in which we place our trust. Faith, to me, is at heart a trust that who we are and what we do matters. A person of faith is one who makes a commitment to living in a way that reflects that trust. There is no specific belief that one must hold in order to be a person of faith; rather, to live faithfully is to live in a way that aligns with your own most deeply cherished values and beliefs, whatever they may be.
 
The holidays are perhaps the time of year most heavily laden with tradition and ritual, but throughout the year the rituals we choose to share with our families, or that we practice as individuals, can keep us connected with our own faith. Some people light a chalice at mealtimes, or practice meditation or prayer, or have special words they use to say goodnight to their family members every evening.
 
What are the rituals in your life that help you to regain focus on your intentions for how to live faithfully every day?
 
May we all be joyful as the days grow shorter and we approach the nadir of the year on the Winter Solstice: the return of light and warmth is near. And if we cannot be joyful, may we find peace.
 
Catherine Farmer Loya

Friendly Beasts Pageant Update

Our friendly beasts, preschoolers through 5th graders, will continue their rehearsals of “The Friendly Beasts Song” this month for the holiday pageant, which occurs December 20 at both services.
 
The rehearsal schedule is as follows:
 
December 6 — Preschoolers to grade 5 during RE (costume fitting after RE in the Cottage)
December 13 — Group rehearsal for all at RE beginning (costume fitting after RE in the Cottage)
December 19 — Saturday dress rehearsal in the Sanctuary (9:30 am to10:30 am) with RE Pancake
Breakfast before the rehearsal and a Bounce House after!
December 20 — Pageant! (both services; please arrive at 8:15 am.)
 
We realize that pageant day is a long one for the children, so please contact me if you can help by:
 
• Supervising the children and providing crafts and games between the services and during most of the second service, when they’ll be in the cottage until they sing, or
 
• Bringing food for between the services (small sandwiches, bagels, cream cheese, muffins, crackers, cheese, cut vegetables and fruit, water, juice, etc.).
 
Ideally, we would like all children to sing at both services on pageant Sunday, but if your child can only sing at one service, please let me know. Here’s to another great pageant!
 
Kris Langabeer

Adult RE:
Foundational UU Texts: James Luther Adams on Faith

 
Adult RE is pleased to announce a new series of oneoff study groups that will examine and discuss what we
might think of as some “foundational texts” of Unitarian Universalism. These documents — essays, addresses, or
excerpts from longer works — are not necessarily “sacred” texts. They certainly shouldn’t be regarded as infallible or perfect revelations of truth, but they do contain ideas that have profoundly influenced the trajectory of thought in the UU movement.
 
We will begin this month with a discussion of James Luther Adams’s “A Faith for the Free (1946).” Faith, the
monthly ministry theme for December, can be a controversial word. Some would argue that it means only
belief in something without evidence. But in a liberal religious context, faith is more complicated. What do Unitarian Universalists mean when we say we are “a people of faith,” despite encompassing a diverse array of beliefs (and non-beliefs)? What sort of faith unites us?
 
An unexamined faith is not worth having,” wrote James Luther Adams, the legendary 20th century Unitarian
theologian, minister, professor, and essayist. He had a lot to say about faith in a rapidly changing world:
 
“To many people the word signifies something that puts a strain on the intelligence. Accordingly, faith is to them a belief in what is not true or what is by nature not fact but wish. To others, the word signifies the acceptance of some belief simply because a church, a tradition, a state, a party demands it... [But] ‘a man bears beliefs,’ said Emerson, ‘like a tree bears apples.’ He bears beliefs about himself, about his fellows, about his work, and his play, about his past, about his future, about human destiny. What he loves, what he serves, what he sacrifices for, what he tolerates, what he fights against, these signify his faith. They show what he places his confidence in.
 
“The faiths of the Twentieth Century have been as powerful and influential as any that have ever been. They have created its science and its atom bombs, its Hollywoods and its Broadways, its Gestapos and its Undergrounds. We have no choice but to be free in the choice of our faith. Indeed, those who claim to be able to identify an infallible authority ‘above’ themselves really claim to be themselves infallible. A more reliable object of faith can be found if people are free to learn from each other by mutual criticism, free to discard old error, free to discover new insight, free to judge, free to test.
 
The free person’s faith is not merely faith in oneself: It is a faith in the capacity of sincere persons to find freely together that which is worthy of confidence.”
 
What does faith mean to you? We will read this essay together and consider Adams’s ideas. Join me Sunday,
December 13, from 3 to 5 pm in Forbes Hall. Copies of the essay and a sign-up sheet will be available at the RE Table.
 
James Witker
 

YRUU Staff for 2015-2016

 
This year’s YRUU elected staff. Left to right top row: Paice Van
Ooyen (Treasurer), Annalivia Martin-Straw (President), Dagny
Stahl (Secretary). Left to right second row: Cheyenne Mason
(Chief of Staff), Sanna Legan (Vice President). Bottom: Alex
Michaelson (Photographer). Text and photo provided by Dagny