Photos from Our All-Church Thanksgiving Feast






Committee on Ministry: Congregational Assessment
One purpose of the Committee on Ministry is to consider the health of our church community. In recent months we have become aware of conflict and unhappiness among members of our church. In an effort to better understand these concerns, the Committee on Ministry will be working with UUA Regional Congregational Life Staff to convene focus groups designed to help manage this conflict. We anticipate that these focus groups will take place during the first quarter of 2016. The focus groups will be led by Ken Brown, our UUA Congregational Life Staff member, and multiple UUA Regional Consultants.
The focus groups are part of UUA-endorsed steps toward bringing our community to more open communication,
compassion, and healing. Everyone is invited to, encouraged to, and should participate in order to ensure a fair, representative, and compassionate process.
From a historical perspective, last fall the Committee on Ministry conducted a survey — something we thought of
as a continuing conversation with our congregation. Though the response was small, we learned from a few courageous people that there was and continues to be unhappiness among us. And we were reminded that all of us, regardless of the level of unhappiness or the issue at hand, love this church of ours. In the months since, we have heard from more of our members and friends, and conflict, unhappiness, hurt feelings, and sorrow continue to be important issues.
The initial UUA-led assessment will consist of focus groups of 8 to 10 people, led in conversation by Regional
Staff. These focus groups will not be led by members of our congregation. Focus group questions will be openended, designed to provide members the opportunity to communicate their concerns. Ground rules will provide guidance for fair, respectful communications. There will be many focus groups, scheduled over many different days and times, to accommodate all who wish to participate. After the focus groups have been convened and completed, UUA Regional Staff will prepare a written report reflecting what we told them during the focus groups, and they will provide recommendations for our next steps. The report will be made available first to the Committee on Ministry and the Board and will then be shared with the congregation.
Let us come together and start the healing process. As Reverend Tera has said, “This place has nurtured the lives of our families and friends. We want this to be a place of health and sustainability for many years to come.”
— Committee on Ministry
Leon Henderson-MacLennan, Barbara Kernochan, Margot Page, Tom Peters, Co-Chair, Sue Stoyanoff, Co-Chair, and Reverend Tera Little
Notes from the Town Hall Meeting on November 1: The congregation’s vision for the future
The Board hosted a Town Hall meeting on November 1 at 12:30 pm to discuss the congregation’s vision for the future.
UU Santa Monica received two large bequests from longtime church members Judy Federick and Drew Still, who included the church in their estate planning. Their generosity has given us approximately $400,000 of unrestricted funds to use for our future. There is a proposal for the use of these funds by the Committee on Money to be voted on by the congregation in February.
At the Town Hall meeting, the congregation was invited to provide their input, suggestions, plans, mission, or vision for the future of UU Santa Monica and how the money would be used. In addition to 9 Board members and 3 members of the Committee on Money, 28 people attended the meeting.
Many speakers came out in support of the Committee on Money report and liked that it set aside money for emergency contingencies in case of a disaster such as an earthquake. Though the well-informed report established guidelines for how to use the money, it was pointed out the recommendations in the report were flexible. There was support for the establishment of an endowment as a secure method for those wishing to leave bequests. It is suggested that we invest the endowment money in the UUA Common Endowment Fund, which is professionally managed and practices socially conscious investing.
Several speakers wanted to see the money used to support social justice causes, like interactive support for low-wage workers or the homeless, as a reflection of our UU Principles. One suggestion was to create a special endowment for social justice, with the interest being used to commit to a long-term project. We should look at our dreams for outreach that came out of our visioning meetings.
Some speakers want to use some of the money for advertising ourselves and making our presence in the community more known. Another person feels that the best way to make ourselves known is to increase our activities partnering with OPCC (Ocean Park Community Center) and other social service agencies and to continue our activities with CLUE (Clergy and Laity United for Economic Justice).
Some speakers want to establish a special fund that can be used to send people to conferences such as General Assembly or Regional training workshops. They would like to have grants or a lottery that could pay half the cost, as opposed to people asking for help because of financial need.
Sometimes we need to have money to respond to needs in a longer time frame, spending money on the upfront costs of a project that will save us money in the long run and also support our UU values. An example is drip irrigation for our grounds.
There was opposition by some to using the money on day-to-day operating expenses, but it was pointed out that the money spent is not being wasted. Spending has been done with Board and congregational approval. A spreadsheet detailing these expenditures is forthcoming.
The next meeting will take place on December 6.
At that time, the details of the Committee on Money report will be presented and discussed. Everyone is encouraged to become familiar with this report. Anyone with further comments or suggestions is encouraged to contact any Board member through letter, email, or personal conversation.
— Submitted by Leonard Cachola and Cynthia Cottam
From a Member of Our Finance Committee:
$25 Per Month Creates a Sustainable, Balanced Budget Next Year
The soundest and best way to create a sustainable, balanced church budget is to increase our pledges by an average of $12.50 per month per person, starting now. This would increase our income by about $50,000 per year, by our 333 current members pledging an average increase of $150 per year!
Given that a sizable portion of our congregation are people who are retired or on fixed incomes and cannot increase (no increase in Social Security benefits for 2016), that means that those who can would need to increase by $25 per month or more in order for our church to maintain the current level of staff, services, and programs on a sustainable basis.
As of August we had 120 (36%) singles and 218 (64%) people in couples, or about 265 pledging units. Forty-eight pledging units (18%) increased their pledges for 2015, even amid economic uncertainty for many of us.
Our congregation is composed of about 16 members ages 18 to 35 (5%); 100 members ages 36 to 49 (30%); 130 members ages 50 to 65 (38%), 66 members ages 65 to 79 (20%); and 24 members ages 80 to 99 (7%). This means that roughly 70% of us are in our earning years and about 30% are retired, based on my comparison of our member list to the photo directory and best estimate, confirmed by a 10% sample.
As Sue and I have a moderate income, soon to be mostly from Social Security, we raised our joint pledge starting last July by the average amount — $25 per month — by taking money away from our other budgeted expenses.
I recognize that some cannot raise their pledges, but I believe many could if they felt inspired and chose to. What
would inspire you? I urge everyone to speak up regarding their choices.
— Steve White
Heart to Heart Circles — Practicing What it Means to be Human
I have been a Unitarian Universalist since discovering this liberal religious tradition while a student at Purdue University. This beloved community has served me well in terms of providing inspiration, stimulation, consciousness raising, social interaction, religious education for my children and now grandchildren, and even employment. Indeed, I met my husband in this very building!
This past year, however, something new was added. I became involved with a Heart to Heart group that evolved, in a very short time, to levels of communication only previously reached with professional therapy. At the first meeting, half of the people in the group were strangers to me, with others ranging from acquaintances to dear friends. The first meeting’s topic was “listening.” Whether by leadership, ground rules, or structure of the meeting,
I found the space to speak from my heart. Magic happened.
I learned to listen as I never had before. Others in the group responded as well. Not only did we hear one another, we created a place that allowed us to share the truth of our lives.
Our stories were intimate, painful, fearful, and tender. There were tears and hugs.
At one check-out we each came to the same conclusion: that the person most deserving of compassion from me is — myself. Our lifelong lessons of guilt and shame had worked to institute a self-censorship that was impeding our joy. Having seen this, it opened real possibilities of change.
How lucky I am to be a part of this group! It has given me a glimpse of my own beauty, and just as importantly, to have assisted others in finding their beauty. I am reminded of a quote we heard from this pulpit written by James Luther Adams: “Church is a place where you get to practice what it means to be human.” This may be life at its most alive.
I urge you to consider participating. Sign-ups for 2016 Heart to Heart groups begin in December and run through January 10. You can sign up electronically here:
http://tinyurl.com/2016H2HCircles, on the church website (
Getting Involved/Heart to Heart Circles), or you can complete a registration form at the LifeSpan RE table in Forbes Hall on Sunday between services.
— Melinda Ewen
Jessica Chapin and the Garden of Eternity
It was suggested by a few folks that I write an article for the newsletter regarding Jessica Chapin and the fundraising for the memorial brick.
Member Jessica Chapin was one of my dearly beloved friends. We often had tea for hours, discussing creative writing, song composition, and the events and controversies of the day. She was greatly encouraging in my creative projects. She inspired my loyalty too, and I would never hesitate to help her. I enjoyed her strong sense of integrity, and I would often come to her for advice.
Jessica realized that my beliefs were in accordance with the seven UU Principles, and told me about the Santa Monica church. I had heard about this church through its generous meals at Step Up on Second. So I decided to visit on November 2, 2014, the Day of the Dead celebration. I felt at home with the congregation, and I decided to join the church later that month.
I had no idea that in exactly one year, I would be visibly grieving during the November 1, 2015, Day of the Dead service for the loss of my good friend Jessica, who died a few weeks prior. I certainly wasn’t prepared to hear “Tears from Heaven” during the service, written by Eric Clapton — a guitarist she had once closely worked with as an assistant. The accompanying song “Comfort Me” was perhaps her very favorite, having overwhelmed me with tears.
I learned about the Eternity Garden during that service, and I got the idea that this would be a beautiful way to remember Jessica. I have very little income, and I needed plenty of mutual friends to help me reach the financial mark to reserve a brick.
With the help of a congregation I have come to adore, as well as a generous personal contribution from the CEO of Step Up on Second Tod Lipka, we reached our goal.
Jessica’s family is quite poor, and I had heard they were struggling to find funds for cremation. I know there will be no other physical reminder honoring her life. I am certain that Jessica’s family will feel great comfort, knowing she will have a physical memorial here, at a place where she was accepted and loved.
— Sarah Robson
Quotes about Faith
Bettye Barclay has provided this list of quotes about our ministerial theme for December. Daily quotes also appear in the weekly electronic announcements.
Week 1. Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase. — Martin Luther King, Jr.
Week 2. I was taught to strive not because there were any guarantees of success but because the act of striving is in itself the only way to keep faith with life. — Madeleine Albright
Week 3. Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason to believe. — Voltaire
Week 4. If it can be verified, we don’t need faith…Faith is for that which lies on the other side of reason. Faith is what makes life bearable, with all its tragedies and ambiguities and sudden, startling joys. — Madeleine L’Engle
Week 5. Faith and doubt are both needed — not as antagonists, but working side by side to take us around the unknown curve. — Lillian Smith