Newsletter for October, 2018

Month: 
Oct 2018
From Our Minister: 

To the Glory of Life: About “Sanctuary”

 
Dear Friends,
 
I want to tell you about “sanctuary” – our theme of the month.
 
And, to do that, I invite you to listen to this song by UU singer/songwriter Peter Mayer. If you haven’t heard of him, he wrote one of the favorite hymns in our new teal hymnal, “Blue Boat Home”. But this is a different song; instead of being about someone who’s grateful to be free on the open water, it’s about chance. A roll of the dice and coming up on the short side of the odds. It’s a song that calls us to a new way of seeing, a new way of being accepting and accepted – welcomed. It’s called, “Nobody Asks.”

And it’s worth reading the lyrics as you listen…
 
Nobody asks to be born
They just show up one day at life’s door
They say, “here I am world, I’m a boy… I’m a girl
I am rich, I am sick, I am poor”
Nobody asks to be born
 
No one is given a say
They’re just thrown straight into the fray
The bell rings, it rings sire, and someone yells fire
Some just end up on the floor
Nobody asks to be born
 
No one’s assured of a grade on the curve
Or a friend they can trust or a house where they’re loved
And no life includes a book of “how-to’s”
Because nobody has lived it before
 
So to all the living be kind
Bless the saint and the sinner alike
And when babies arrive with their unholy cries
Don’t be surprised by their scorn
‘Cause nobody asks to be born. 
 
No, nobody asks to be born. And yet here we are. Arriving by the millions, every day. We show up and check into the room that was pre-reserved for us. If it’s in the top 1%, it can be pretty sweet – all we need is right in front of us. Even the top 10%… or 20%… is incredibly good.  Lots of perks and advantages. But truth to tell, anything above the bottom 30% is usually okay. We learn to be resilient, adaptable and creative.
 
But for the lower 20%, it can be pretty hard. Down in this range, everything is a crapshoot. Food… water… shelter… safety… Even basic things, like whether or not we have a parent who cares.
 
I grew up somewhere in the middle. And still, I don’t know what I would have done if I hadn’t had places to turn when what I needed was suddenly nowhere to be found. The place I went most often – the place my family took me when we were running low – was church.
 
At church there was music and there were games played together. People who asked you how you were, and who listened no matter what you said. At church people seemed nicer than the people at my school –  friendlier than on my street or at the store. Even my family was kinder when we were at church. And sometimes there were donuts.
 
As a small boy, starting out, I felt overwhelmed and under-prepared. I had a lot of uncertainty about the world. Without church, I wouldn’t have found the salve for growing pains, removed the chips on my shoulder, or learned to be kind. All that came from being part of others’ lives. Being “born again” in a place where I wasn’t so all alone.
 
From the Latin, sanctuarium, we get the suffix “-arium”: a container for keeping something sacred or safe. And the prefix, “sancti”: something holy or cherished. When I was most unsure, with nowhere to turn, I was cherished in a safe place. Sanctuary.
 
But it’s different for the bottom 10%. Children born in peril. Families displaced by war.
 
The Sanctuary movement was a religious response to the tragedy of the early 1980s. The US provided safe respite to Central American refugees fleeing civil war. Today it has become a compassionate alternative to heartless immigration policies.
 
Last month the US set the lowest refugee resettlement allowance (30,000) since the paranoia following 9/11 – despite 25 million people being displaced worldwide by violence or war. Some churches choose to become “Sanctuary Congregations,” giving sanctuary – a container of beneficence – to families who would otherwise be separated and deported.
 
I’m not suggesting that UUSM do this, but I do believe we can recognize the pain and alienation people are feeling today – no matter what class they were born into. I do think we can welcome every single person who comes to us with kindness and compassion, no matter the color of their skin, or the language they speak and the rituals they learn soon after.
 
The things that divide us are so artificial and unnecessary. They create a strata of class and privilege out of race, gender, culture and class. But all of that disappears in a true sanctuary. Because in a true sanctuary, inherent worth is what guides everything.
 
To the Glory of Life.
News & Announcements: 

Did You See the Newsletter Digest?

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
The Newsletter Committee and Website Team have premiered the first UUSM Newsletter Digest. UUSM members and friends far and wide received the Digest via email, and will continue receiving it monthly. It includes a sampling of posts appearing here on the new, web-based UUSM Newsletter, keeping up with a long tradition of informing the membership, and keeping up with the times. The UUSM.org website and the UUSM Newsletter are evolving together with united goals: to uplift the whole purpose of the church, and to help all groups that are agents for change be even more successful.
 
Ask your friends at church what they think of the web-based UUSM Newsletter. Did they see this Newsletter Digest email? Are they getting the Weekly Announcements that are emailed on Thursdays? If not, they should contact Diego Andres (oos@uusm.org) to update their email address and/or spam filter. Those members who have difficulty navigating technology should contact the Comm Team via Diego in the church office or CommTeam@uusm.org.
 
We are a committee in transition. What do you like about the site and the Digest? (You can view the Digest here.) Let us know in Feedback below. Your comments will not be published but are very useful.
 
Splinters from the Board: 

From Our DRE: Sanctuary and the Klondike Bar

 
noun: sanctuary: a place of refuge or safety.
 
From this simple definition one could infer that a sanctuary is a place to hide…in isolation. We, like our Christian cousins, call our meeting room a sanctuary. In the old days the builders of churches included stained glass as a way to create a sanctuary filled with the light of God. Many UUs don’t think of our sanctuaries as places of God, but as places made holy by the gathering of our community. This is what I believe.
 
I was lost, hurt, and alone in my tumultuous sixteenth year of life, and for a relatively short time I lived with my grandmother. Grandma Katherine worked a lot, and I hardly saw her. But every week we would get in her old Ford pickup and make a 30 mile grocery run. There was not a lot of money, so we mostly came back with beans, pork neck bones and lunch meat, which was usually the cheapest bologna on sale. But grandma, even though she was an insulin-dependent diabetic, loved Klondike Bars. She would get just one package of six ice cream bars and eat one a day until the next store trip.
 
One day I came into her room while she was eating one to ask her the simple question: “Why do bad things happen to good people?” Now, I do not remember what her response was. But I do remember her immediately getting up and going to the fridge to get me a Klondike Bar. I also remember that we talked long after the ice cream was finished about many things, including life, death, love, loss, hopes, and dreams. I remember feeling that I could talk to Grandma about anything, and she would still love me and accept me. I also remember that next week at the store she bought two packages of Klondike Bars, and following that, we spent at least one day a week on her bed enjoying our treats and talking. She inspired me, she encouraged me, she made me think things could get better. During that brief time I was in a kind of sanctuary – a home where I was loved and supported.
 
Somewhere, there are people to whom we can speak with passion
without having the words catch in our throats.
Somewhere a circle of hands will open to receive us, eyes will light up as we enter,
voices will celebrate with us whenever we come into our own power.
Community means strength
that joins our strength to do the work that needs to be done.
Arms to hold us when we falter.
A circle of healing.
A circle of friends.
Someplace where we can be free.
 
– Starhawk
 
I truly believe our church is becoming a sanctuary. I’m not just talking about the place where we gather to worship. I’m talking about how we are when we are together in that place, or anywhere we gather. We are inspired by the sermons, the music, and the readings. But we are also inspired by the people in our congregation doing justice work, the ones teaching our children in their RE classes, the ones teaching OWL, and those leading adult groups.
 
We are encouraged when we see each other doing the work, and even more so when we hear them talk with passion about what they’re doing. We are encouraged when we see it all making a difference even in small ways, leading us to hope to make more radical change in the future.
 
Sanctuary can be found in a community of people who come together and share openly and honestly with one another. It is found in being with people who share your values, celebrate your joys and successes, and hold you close in your failures and sorrows. Sanctuary is found in the people that you want to share your ideas and your ice-cream with.
 
In the words we speak,
In the songs we sing,
In the work that we do,
In the being together,
In the knowing that we make a difference in our world,
We are creating a sanctuary.
 
If you ever want to come by and talk with me about anything, contact me and we’ll set up an appointment. I’ll be sure to have a couple of Klondike Bars waiting.

Board of Directors Report: Board Joins with Neighboring Congregations; Announces New Hires

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Board Development Day at UUSM 2018
 
On September 8, our church and Board hosted a Board Development Day for our and other local UU churches. The Board learned more about implementing best practices.
 
The Board met on September 11 and reflected on the historical significance of this date.
 
Announcements
There will be changes coming to our current communication methods. The purpose is to balance the volunteer hours needed with the need to keep members and friends informed in a timely manner, and to move the church more to current electronic communication methods.
 
New Hires
There are three new hires: two will be participating in Sunday services. The third person is Diego Andres, our new Thursday communications assistant.
 
New Committee
The Board voted to form a committee to implement a new restricted fund: The Young Adult Programming Fund. The committee is charged with three objectives: 1) to define a clear purpose for the fund; 2) identify a person responsible for disbursement of monies, and 3) to establish a sunset clause for the fund. These objectives will be also be a goal to apply to future restricted funds.
 
Other Discussion
The Board discussed ways to increase their visibility among the congregation. One main idea is to have board members read the Sunday announcements from the pulpit.
 
New Members
One new member was read into the minutes: Neelam Mullick. Please welcome her if you see her.
 
Rebecca Crawford
 
RE News: 

Focus on Adult Education – October 2018

 
Check out the full calendar for more details on special events and our regular Adult Religious Education activities. The public is warmly welcomed.
 
Monday October 22 and Tuesday Oct. 30: Humanist Voices
In October, we will read and discuss “The Church of What We Know,” a  guest sermon and reflection on what UU identity means by our beloved songwriter Peter Mayer (“Blue Boat Home”) which was delivered to a congregation in San Diego in 2017. 7 to 9 pm both evenings. Contact James Witker for more information.
 
Saturday, October 20: Conversations and Connections Workshop
Adult Religious Exploration hosts a new series to provide structure and opportunities for meaningful connections between individuals in our congregation. Within the context of small gatherings, we break off into pairs, encouraging conversation between us that deepens our connections. Each meeting will offer the opportunity to connect with at least three different people. We believe that as the number of one-to-one connections grows over time, there will be an expanding web of connections in our community based on trust and acceptance. Sign up at the RE Table in Forbes Hall after Sunday services, intended for UUSM members and pledging Friends. 12 to 2 pm in the Warren Mathews Conference Room.
 
Sunday, October 28: AAHS Freethinker Forum
AAHS Freethinker Forum: Agnostics, Atheists, Humanists, and Secularists is an open group that meets for lively and engaging discussion on topics of politics, science, religion and philosophy. We also host occasional guest speakers, films, and outings. We are a home base for non-believers and questioners, but everyone is welcome. For many, it is said that atheism/agnosticism is a first step. Humanism is the thousand steps that come afterwards. 12 pm – 2 pm, Warren Mathews Conference Room. Contact aahs@uusm.org.
 
Sunday October 28: The Disability Support Group
 The Disability Support Group will be promoting a dialogue on a selected topic at each of its meetings throughout this church year. There is a different theme for each month. We meet the fourth Sunday of each month at 12:30 pm in the Cottage. All church members interested in the topic are invited to attend. We hope these topics are of interest to you. The dates and topics are as follows:
 
October 28, 2018 – Church Barriers to Persons with Disabilities
November 25, 2018 – Dating Opportunities and Challenges
December 23, 2018 – Positive Self Definition
January 27, 2019 – Sports Activities and Opportunities
February 24, 2019 – Governmental Programs
March, 24, 2019 – Seeking Employment
April, 28, 2019 – Interactions with Local, State, and Federal Government
May 26, 2019 – Self Empowerment
 
Highlights of our regular activities and interest groups:
 
Meditation Mondays, 7:30 pm
Senior Exercise Fridays, 10 am
Balanced Behaviors, October 3, 17, and 24; 7 pm
Men’s Group, October 4, 7 pm
Come Dance with Us folk dancing, October 7, 7:15 pm
Fiction Reading Book Club, October, 15, 7 pm, My Cousin Rachel by Daphne du Maurier
Science Non-Fiction Book Group, October 16, 7:30 pm, Lab Girl: A Story of Trees, Science and Love by Hope Jahren.